Your Heart, Your Home
If you’ve been striving for near perfection like I’ve been doing, then you’d understand how tedious it is to move from place to place. For people like us, whether it be Virgoans, the Highly Sensitive People, or the Neurotic ones, you’ll feel a bout of discomfort settling into a new place or calling it home straight away.
This sentiment is similar to those who call everyone they meet and speak to friends.
No! that’s not true. You can’t make a friend instantly. They become acquaintances before friendship. Friendship is based on action and not allotment. But then I digress.
Calling a place your home is the same as not being quick to call a person your friend. You have to feel it in your heart, bones, and spirit. Otherwise, it’s just another building, a house, or an acquaintance before the next real thing. If you find yourself struggling to find a place you can call home, it’s time to reevaluate a lot of things in your life. Your heart, mind, spirit, and the people you surround yourself with. Because truth is, to call a place a home is scary. It requires being brutally honest with oneself. Questions like: am I just comfortable where I am, or can I truly call this place I’m living in home? Who are the people I’m living with, do they vibe with my spirit, what kind of furniture do I have? Do they aid my settlement?
To make a house your home, you have to use your heart, you have to be sincere. You have to be feeling the right kind of things that would make you settle in. Not just packing in.
A place that is your home is somewhere you don’t look forward to leaving. Of course, such a time might present itself when you need to upgrade, but you don’t necessarily think about it when you’re settling into your new home at first. You just want to give it the right kind of things, furniture, or development that will make it align with what your spirit or heart is telling you. And bask in that settlement.
A home cannot be called a house anymore. It’s the transformative aspect of things that permits you to always use the word HOME as opposed to calling it a mere house. The thoughts and feelings accompanied by such pronunciation should bring you an aroma of peace and calm. Because it’s called home.
Your heart is where your home is. If your heart isn’t at peace, no matter how everything else fits, you’ll never settle in. You won’t be proud to call it home. You simply won’t feel at home.
Sometimes the home we build comes from the people we surround ourselves with. So, if you’re with people who bring you peace and honor, calm, laughter, joy, acceptance, and an avenue for authenticity, that is where home is. However, if you’re unlucky to have people who bring you down, dim your shine, or shame your natural state of being, it’s just a house. It’s a matter of time before you pack up and leave.
Other times, the material aspect plays a huge role in our tendency to call a place a home. Our kind of furniture and its placement purpose play a role.
If we don’t have the right kind of settings, we can’t settle in easily.
We’d still be disturbed each time we come “home” and that is not the type of feeling we want to get each time we’re in such a sacred place.
It could also be the maximalist aspect of our living. If we have loads of personal belongings that we don’t use, they can easily form clutters. This can breed stress and lack of settlement if we’re constantly picking up and arranging stuff (perhaps for a giveaway). The right thing or fitting for a home is to have just the right number of things we need to help us live easily. This is what home entails. Lack of uneasiness, freedom to do nothing, relaxation to the core.
Home is where we say it is. So, for those of us who find it hard to move around a lot or settle in, ask yourself if you’re just comfortable where you are or if you’ve truly found your safe haven. A place that you can call home. Somewhere to rest your head, heart, and mind. A home in sync with your spirit. Ask yourself. Where is home? What do you want home to mean to you?
Thanks for taking the time to read.
