Our experiences in life shape our thoughts and forge the words to use to convey them. At first, when we encounter painful traumatic events, the body shuts down. Most specifically the part of the brain responsible for speech gets impaired. As a result, we’re left dumbfounded for a while and reclusive.
In this phase of trauma, it becomes impossible to explain, express or even remotely react to what has occurred to you. Which can be extremely painful and off-putting for people who truly want to know you.
But what makes us open back up could be the direct opposite of our previous encounter or something worse. In the former case, something different is coming to loosen the tight grip your brain and body have had throughout the trauma. Usually something kinder and more resonating with your spirit. Before you know it, you relearn to speak out comprehensively again.
Speaking out and up for yourself are imperative in our healing journey. This is not emphasized enough, but it’s true. It is a sign that your body is healing from all it was put through and regaining its abilities to let go (not necessarily forget) and heals. Because when we speak up and out, when we are vocal about things, it’s easy to rid of them. Unlike keeping mute and bottling a whole lot inside — we’d implode.
So, when you can hear the sound of your voice, but you weren’t usually that way, you’re healing from your trauma. When you can at least articulate the words to use instantly to convey your message, you are very much healing.
Words are stronger than we accept. Words are released from the depth of the heart where most of our burden lies. It frees the mind from its entrapping thoughts and rumination.
The ability to be vocal helps you regain the power you had as kids to say what you feel, how you feel, and how to become better even if all others fail. At first, you might be emotionally erratic and as such, say things explicitly and offensively. But such a case demands that you exercise even deeper self-compassion toward yourself as you’re relearning to use your voice.
With time, effort, and awareness of this flaw, you’re bound to harness the appropriate use of your words as adults.
When you do, you can understand how your words could also heal others in the bid to heal yourself. Through writing, singing, preaching, and any literary motivation route possible. And slowly, but surely, you begin to understand the reason all that befell you did and purposefully contribute your quota of a healing potion for others in a similar or worse predicament.
This is the despicable point of trauma. You heal from it so that others don’t have to suffer as well. I hope you use your voice well.
Thanks for taking the time to read.
