Time Does Not Heal
At the beginning of every hurt and pain comes the grave anxiety that things will never be fine again. This form of anxiety adds to the previous anxiety of what led to it and most times throws one off balance. But in-between all this energy comes the glimpse of hope that maybe someday it’d be over — that time will heal all the wounds and seal up the scars. Now while this is not far from the truth, it is emotionally deceptive to assume so. Which in turn could lead one down the same painful road next time.
This is mainly because time doesn’t heal all wounds. Not a quarter, not half. What time does instead is reduce the severity of the pain as it passes by.
For example, when someone has been abused, bullied, or passed through a traumatizing moment, it’s a slap on their experience to assume time would wish it away. Rather, with time, they start to unravel things from their past and make sense of them. They encounter what felt like their low moments and their high moments too (if any). They attempt to reconcile these findings to enable them to decipher how to move forward (Of course if this is the prime purpose of their journey).
Time doesn’t heal the wound but it can do the reverse.
Some emotional pain when left at bay for too long can somersault into something grave — not untreatable though. This is why it’s advised that when you experience certain emotional difficulty you attend to it with immediate effect. Demand an apology, set out a lone time to process it, experiment with what you’ve concluded from your lone time sessions, and implement if effective. But when we carry over the hurt and pain we feel, over time, it turns into a patched emotional injury which is highly unhealthy. So, not tackling what needs to be tackled instantaneously can result in the reverse — unhealed wounds.
It’s a common saying that time heals all wounds but when we sit down to dissect what type of emotional or mental or psychological injury has been inflicted, coupled with our type of being, we’d realize that it’s not so true. It’s a matter of time to reduce the severity of the pain but not to rid the pain as the brain tends to diminish some information about a certain experience after a while but the mind always remembers, for the most part when triggered.
