Question Everything, but Answer a Few
If you’re an analytic person, it can be hard not to barrage yourself with lots of questions you feel need answers. Likewise, it can be harder to ignore the ones coming from other people.
It’s not just about the questionings sometimes, but about the compelling feeling to answer any and every question thrown at us in-depth.
As seemingly harmless as this habit/ trait can be, it can be super exhausting to live with. It can affect your mental health. It is similar to people-pleasing where you force yourself to meet others’ needs to your detriment. If not, why answer every question thrown at you and try hard to be accurate as well?
It could also be a perfectionist syndrome where you’re trying to prove perfect in clearing the slate of questions (like a speck of dirt) thrown at you. Like someone is keeping the scores.
The proper approach to those demanding situations would be to only answer a few questions and deflect the others.
It includes imploring statements like; can I think about it? I don’t have an answer right now, can we talk about this later on? Or simply ask why the many questions are thrown your way anyway.
The sole need to explain every or over-analyze answers to the many questions thrown our way says something about our self-esteem and self-awareness — in a less positive sense.
Think about it for a minute…
Self-awareness mostly kick-starts by asking questions and answering them. It could be self-evaluation related or it could be about external things. Often times we get aloof with questioning everything and receiving little answers which end up depressing us rather than uplift our spirits as self-aware individuals. This is why it’s so important to be mindful of how many questions we barrage our minds with to answer at any one time and also the ones we feel compelled to answer from other people.
So next time somebody has a lot to ask of you at any one time, it’s normal to push some aside at the moment for revisitation later and answer to some. Or when you do, to leave it at a concise level too — because the act of talking too much or over-analyzing isn’t going to make you any more intelligent. Rather you need that peace or pause in-between each talk — whether self-talk or with others — to be able to fully comprehend what the true answers are.
It’s okay to leave the lightbulbs (moment) lit and untampered. After all, silence is where true wisdom lies.
Next time people barrage you with questions, remember you have the right to stay quiet, answer some and deflect others for the sake of your mental health.
Best put: question everything, but answer only a few.