Low-cost Emotional Therapies and Remedies That Would Alleviate Your Emotional Turbulence
Emotions are what make us humans. If it were not for our emotions we would be equivalent to plastics. Thankfully, we can feel and be felt. But emotions are equally essentialities that make us complex human beings. A simple thing can get misconstrued because of emotional involvement. As such it can appear more like a burden to have emotions or be emotional as the case may be. But seeing that this is an innate part of our being, rather than abolish them or be in denial about it, we have to find ways to come to terms with that part of us. And deal with their cons.
Before talking about how to deal with our emotions for our good, let’s look at some of the ways emotions tend to sway us.
- Emotions make things complex
It’s somewhat common knowledge (and psychologists always refer to) that not trusting our emotions on a whim will better help us see things for what they are. Hence, diminishing their complexities.
- Emotions are mysterious
If you’re yet to get to know yourself well, it can be a pain to ascertain how you feel as and when due. This mystery springs up always in the form of an emotion that often goes unclassified. Demystifying this, therefore, requires a strong sense of self/self-awareness. Which isn’t always so straightforward.
- Emotions appear harmful.
Emotions and being emotional can be burdensome. Similar to the first point above, they can appear harmful due to their complex nature. But if you’re in tune with what emotions are all about, you’d embrace them better with the belief that they’re only signals pointing toward an omen than leaving you in perils.
Now, let’s discuss some remedies or therapies on how to deal with emotional difficulties or burdens.
1.) Setting boundaries
Setting boundaries serve as emotional therapy because it allows us to know what our limits are and not exceed them — to not be completely flustered and depleted of our good emotional energy.
Setting boundaries, I’d like to see it as one of the most childlike behavior to readopt as adults. It is simply creating rules-turned-principles and values that protect your person. It’s commonly stating what you don’t like and not condoning them — plus reinforcing them.
As a child, if you don’t like a thing, you don’t pretend to do it, you simply call it out. Whereas when you do, you smile and welcome the idea. Setting boundaries is similar to that. Except with more assertiveness/politeness. Practices like saying no, saying yes, stating and sticking with your priorities, etc.
2.) Reinforcing the boundaries
We often think it all ends with setting our boundaries. But what if I told you that reinforcing one’s boundaries is the most therapeutic way of conserving their emotional energy? Its ripple effects are overwhelmingly positive. In that, by reinforcing your boundaries, you exhibit discipline, courage, a strong sense of self, and well-balanced emotional life. It is the hardest thing to do but well worth it. You just have to think about what matters most to you and continue showing up for yourself utilizing those values as your backup.
Reflection is another form of emotional therapy as it gives us room to ponder on the type of emotions we tend to exhibit or exhibited from time to time. Reflection gives us room to analyze if we’re truly emotional beings and how that may be either stomping or enhancing our growth. It is what permits us to think things through — whether as they occur — otherwise known as real-time reflection or in the aftermath of things.
Reflection is different from just thinking or overthinking even. It is the ability to converse with yourself not necessarily coming up with immediate results or conclusions. It is an efficient tool for emotional relief just by thinking about it.
Many people now are beginning to understand the efficacy of spending alone time. This is because spending time with ourselves not only allows us to understand ourselves and our emotions better but creates an avenue to avoid unnecessary emotional fluctuations inflicted by other people. Spending ourselves just being present and enjoying our moment, is one of the best ways to remedy our emotional conflicts or difficulties. It keeps us out of trouble in every sense.
Calmness, serenity, and meditation go hand-in-hand when it comes to emotional therapy. It is the state of Zen that allows you not to necessarily think or indulge in the thoughts that flood your mind. Just being in that mental clean state further clears that of your emotional state. These are some of the states of being or practices that can enhance your emotional well-being. We should meditate as regularly as we can. Not entirely but effectively when we are emotionally unsettled.
6.) Doing things you love
My mother once told me: once it looks like you’re emotionally derailing, hook up unto something that excites you. I used to think it was escapism in a negative light, but I was wrong. It’s okay to postpone negative feelings or emotions by counteracting them by doing things you love.
For me, I enjoy randomly reading anything. But when I’m emotionally distressed, I pick specific articles to read that might either validate or alleviate my feelings. Sometimes I go on Quora when I’m down, and encounter random topics that speak to me about my situation. Other times, I disconnect (connectively) by indulging in entertaining platforms like Netflix. During most of these downtimes, I normally come up with topics to write on and actively write. And then my spirit is elated.
There you have it; some of the low-cost ways to rid yourself of emotional burdens when they arise. Emotions define us as humans but we must never forget we are in charge. The ability to regulate our emotions is mainly our responsibility, even though that tends to get marred by the type of upbringing we had. But we must find a way to look after the emotional aspects of our being because not so doing can gravely affect our way of being — especially as human-“beings”.
Thanks for taking the time to read.