Life-Pie Chart
The Power of Refocusing When One or More Aspects Of Your Life Sways You.
We have many different aspects to us; the emotional, physical, spiritual, work/financial, social, and mental. Fully balancing the outcomes from each stratum at any point in time is what defines our well-being — whether we are derailing or rising — in them.
As human beings, we are very complex in nature in conjunction with the fact that we are fallible. What this goes to say is that no matter how hard we try to avert certain formidable circumstances we’re faced with or maintain a good poise in the face of adversity, it would either normally take a whole lot of energy or we give up trying and allow the aftermath from that area linger on and influence others.
When this happens, it’s evident that we’re overwhelmed at this stage and allowing an aspect of us sway on
A stoic mind is a kind that stands the heat in the kitchen and never shows it. And while everybody cannot be the same on how they deal with their respective ordeals, there’s a common, but not so easy remedy, to curb the damage, and that is by practicing the act of refocusing.
Another term for refocusing is re-navigation or re-strategizing. Refocusing means putting your focus back on something which you previously did or something new.
Conventionally, when it comes to dealing with stuff, having the many aspects of us that we juggle at the same time means we would have, at many times or intervals, focused on a specific, or collectively many of those aspects — many times than not — perhaps to scale through it.
For this reason, the word ‘focus’ isn’t the term any longer but instead refocus.
Just because we are not perfect, as human beings, doesn’t mean that we don’t get the space or good breaks in-between — from time to time. The good thing about this, therefore, postulates that not many aspects of us get marred or affected, and activated or needed at once, at any point in time.
That’s the beauty of having many different aspects of us we can choose from and optimize when the need arises
Normally, when you feel down by one or multiple aspects of your life, at the same time, odds are, there are other ‘thriving’ aspects — to revive you. That’s the advantage of having our body system framed this way— the off/on power we’ve been instilled with naturally.
When you’re down emotionally, there’s the physical aspect to relieve you of it. Likewise, when you’re down mentally, you can capitalize on your emotional aspect to see you through.
This is complicated; in the sense that one aspect of our lives could be producing the resultant effect of another that we’re dealing with, and as such, we can’t focus on them. But that’s the beauty of having many different aspects of us that we can choose from and optimize when the need arises.
This also boils down to inculcating the abundance mentality. Seeing the glass half full. Because when you do, instead of viewing problems as problems and capitalizing on them, you’d refocus on other things that are going well for you. You’d tap the good energy from those aspects to feed off the hunger, albeit temporarily, resulting from the other hollow ones.
Practicing the act of gratitude is important as it helps to make you see things differently. Your perspective on certain things. It helps to nurture and re-navigate you to what’s most important, at that very moment. It gives you a pivotal mental-shift.
Refocusing also comes with prioritizing. This is when you decide what is most important for you as you battle with stuff and your focus on it. When you’ve chosen to be happy (mental) and relating well with your family or friends (social) as your priority, it’s hard to get mad at your physical inadequacies or financial shortcomings. Your outlook would be like this: “at least I’m rich in people, I have loved ones I can dote on”. It’s all about what matters most to you at that point in time — of your ordeal — again, using the internal on/off feature to balance things.
No one aspect of life shares the same resultant effect as the other when perturbed. This means you could get easily carried away and stuck from dealing with the effect from one ad-nauseam, or you could refocus your attention to another that will keep you moving.
On a paramount note, instead of dwelling on it, work on it.
Instead of dwelling in your emotional incapacitation, work on it. Find out what is truly going on. Where there could be lapses or loopholes that require your attention and instead of worry, invite intentionality as and when due, and figure what it is out.
I happen to be in a state where I’m struggling to manage the effects of writing in an overall non-writing-friendly society. At the same time, without any valid source of income, which attempts always to deter my mental state from normal and hence, affect other areas of my life.
But I’m constantly choosing to refocus my attention on the more thriving aspects of me which includes dwelling on the euphoric feeling writing gives me, from inspiring myself and others out there. Being free and comfortable enough to do what I like. Able to enjoy ‘basic’ things that are easily overlooked; such as a roof over my head, food, light, water— other privileges such as working out, having my family’s support, and believing in God Etcetera.
I’ve also reframed the outlook of things to ‘taking a good break to figure me out and anything else I’m supposed to be or be doing — hopefully, in accordance with my destiny’.
It’s very easy to get swayed in a world full of pandemonium. When that happens, lower the volume of the ‘noise’ in your head and quietly ask yourself; what’s the most important thing to me right now? A job or my family; friends or my mental state? God (or whatever brings you peace and resolution to the meaning of life in the spiritual sense) or my emotional state? — when stuck in that dilemma or vicious cycle.
These are intertwining and as complicated as we human beings are but inviting your real sense of self into play will enable you to prioritize well.
The power of refocusing cannot be overemphasized. It is an overarching scheme that helps you live better when you choose (intentionally) to move your mind or shift your focus to the different dimensions of your life when one of them becomes unbearable or void. This doesn’t equate to running away; it’s choosing not to let it engulf you. But rather to explore other options that you’re naturally endowed with as well to relieve you while you figure the other out.
One of the biggest regrets of time would be overlooking something as important as something you’re fussing over. It’s all about balance, prioritization, refocusing, and optimizing.
When you were born, there was a stringent life-aspect pie chart you were presented with, now that you’re an adult, you have the freedom to reshuffle that chart and hence, wheel the course of your life in whatever direction you like. Be grateful that you can choose to dwell on the negative ebb and flow of life or make a U-turn for a better living.
What is your life-pie chart like?
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