Give Yourself an Account of How You’ve Lived This Year

Do you remember when you were anticipating entering the new year 2021? How about 2020? Okay, at least you’d remember 2019? 2018, no? All those inspirational quotes, tears, laughter, growth goals, development aspirations, what about the resolutions? No? Don’t recall at all?

I rest my case then.

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It’s the end of the year once again. Thank Goodness there’s a “once again” at the back of that sentence, otherwise, we’d be stuck in the frustrating cycle of berating ourselves for not ever getting a clean slate.

But is a new year really a clean slate? Well, it at least sets the tone for a change of heart, mind, and wardrobe, and even the people in our lives.

But as we anticipate for such a great stride to come, we also need to take into account how our year 2021 has panned out.

For some of us, 2021 has been eye-opening, lip-sealing from several bouts of shock, ear-jolting from an earful of unbelievable stories, anxious-filled. Whereas for some others, monumental, full of saving graces, favorable, etc.

Whatever it is, it’s been such a ride. And as much as we want to orchestrate our new rosters, regimens, resolutions, and budgets for 2022, we ought to give an account of the three-hundred and sixty-something days we were given.

Questions like:

How did this year go for me? What particular word or words can I use, to sum up this year?

For me, it’s been liberating. Liberating because I’ve distanced myself (through God’s saving grace) from mentally and physically debilitating situations that I was crippled by for years by the very people I entrusted my life to.

It’s been very liberating to finally let go of the need to please anybody but myself.

It’s been liberating to finally learn the differences between nice and kind and choose to exercise the latter more.

It’s been liberating to finally summon the courage to do and be a lot of things (for the sake of my newborn) that I wouldn’t dare to in the first place.

How about you? What is the one word to use, to sum up your year 2021 thus far?

Did you accomplish any one of your resolutions?

As I said, it’s so easy to jot down or mentally map out a list of behaviors or habits to cultivate or abolish as a new year approaches. But the real hard work comes from actively working towards accomplishing the set resolutions.

Did you stop telling lies always hence hiding from who you are or what you have to say?

Did you start taking your health more seriously?

Did you work on your commitment skills to fulfilling your set goals — which of course would be evident from how you handled your resolutions?

What I do to remind me of my resolutions each year and adhere to them is to write them down on a piece of paper. At the end of each month, I go over the paper as I engage in a fasting and praying session to kick-start a new month. That way, I incorporate them in my prayers and ask for the grace to keep doing what I’ve slated.

It keeps me in tune with what I said I’d do or be or work on and at the same time helps me evaluate my progress of each or most of them as at the time.

Which one of your prayers for this year got answered?

I understand it’s not in our powers to have our prayers answered. All we can do is ask and hope to receive from God or the Universe. But guess what, we always have more than one thing we ask for although there are more pressing ones. Knowing this, can we account for at least one prayer that was answered? Just one little prayer point. Are we grateful that it came, for the time it came, and how too? Or do we wish it differently?

Did you achieve greater progress? Did you achieve greater elevation? What about independence? Peace of mind? Friends? Family? A lover?

The ability to decipher this will help us to stay spiritually connected to who we serve, in my case, God. It’ll enable us to be grateful for what has been accomplished and hopeful for what’s to come.

What has this year prepared you in advance for?

The common trite is that everything happens for a reason, yet we forget to squeeze the little ounce of wisdom dripping from that. If you hadn’t gone through what you did this year, you wouldn’t be better prepared for next year.

The courage I’ve built from this year will help me soar higher with the challenges ahead both with motherhood and career-wise.

The pain I’ve been through from getting rejected by my loved ones will propel me to stand on my own and work towards obtaining independence from every cadre I always sought.

There’s something this year’s ordeal has taught you to better prepare you for the upcoming year. Figure it out so you can align yourself with all it entails to sail in smoothly with it by next year.

It’s exciting to anticipate a new year while forgetting all that’s happened in the past one simply because they’re in the “past” right? But the trite that says the past somewhat determines the future holds water for when it comes to giving an account of how we’ve lived this year and how to navigate the upcoming year.

On top of this, it’ll help you figure some deep inner truths you kept ignoring that need to be revealed to enable you to flourish for the new year (because that’s the point right? new year new beginnings).

We can’t move forward unless we’ve determined the steps to take to do so — which of course comes with evaluating how far we’ve come — the how’s, why’s, which’s, where’s, when’s. This is what giving an account looks like. That is what it takes to match into the new year more aware and most importantly, ready.

Get into the new year prepared, don’t be caught unawares by the very things you should at least have at the tip of your fingers.

Happy Holidays.




A girl who writes & addresses toxic hidden agenda in the form of topical issues whilst digesting their relative life lessons. I can't alone— It's a ‘let's all’.

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A girl who writes & addresses toxic hidden agenda in the form of topical issues whilst digesting their relative life lessons. I can't alone— It's a ‘let's all’.

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