Don’t beat up yourself for having high expectations in relationships

You have (and can give) what it takes to have high expectations

Comet N.
2 min readMar 20, 2023

People with high expectations oftentimes are willing to give what they anticipate

People who aren’t willing to live up to your standards are the ones who tell you not to expect anything (maybe from them, which will be fair enough). But as humans, it’s hard not to expect. Expectation comes from a place of hope, the hope that something will pan out the way we want it. And honestly, that’s not a bad thing. Why? Because as long as we’re ready to give equal energy to the kind we expect, there’s nothing selfish about that.

It’s like having standards of whom you want to be engaged with romantically. It’s not self-alluding to name the traits or characteristics you want from a person, as long as you’re keeping up with your part of the bargain. For example, do you want a fit person? I hope you are keeping fit, do you want an honest person? I hope honesty is your policy. If you expect to be purposeful, I hope you are doing something (at least?) for it. Stuff like that…

Expectations form our standards or codes of conduct in any given situation.

But these days, especially in relationships, we are told not to expect or anticipate anything from anybody. I get how that can certainly lead to disappointment in the long run, but it’s not enough to erase it from the relationship dictionary. Expectations form the standard or code of conduct between two people or more in any situation. Especially if they have to keep meeting one another. Therefore, I’m postulating that it’s not self-deprecating to expect some level of love and respect from your loved ones, care and consideration from your close friends, and good behavior from the general public. People play it safe (and I used to believe) in living by the mantra: hope for the best, but expect the worst. There’s a silver lining greater than the average credit this quote has received. You’re expecting while hoping. Check it.

#advice #purpose #thoughts #personal development

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Comet N.

A girl who writes & addresses toxic hidden agenda in the form of topical issues whilst digesting their relative life lessons. I can't alone— It's a ‘let's all’.