A First-time Mother’s First Real-World Headache

Comet N.
2 min readMay 8, 2024

As a parent, it is common to feel a deep sense of responsibility toward your child’s physical, emotional, and mental well-being. However, the pressure of conforming to societal norms can often create unnecessary stress and anxiety for parents, particularly when it comes to making decisions about how to raise their children. For instance, the pressure to be a “perfect” parent by adhering to certain standards or practices can be overwhelming and make it difficult for parents to trust their instincts and make choices that are best for their children., when it comes to a boy child’s hair, there are often preconceived notions of what is “appropriate” or “normal”. Parents may face direct or indirect criticism for letting their son’s hair grow long, which can be frustrating.

Living in a culture with deeply rooted traditions and values can make it difficult for parents to express themselves freely. Criticism and prejudice may be directed towards those who choose to act differently from societal norms. However, it’s important to remember that these criticisms often stem from individuals who secretly wish they dared to express themselves in the same way.

If you’re a parent who wants to let their son grow their hair long, it’s important to remember that a child’s hair shouldn’t determine their gender. Hair length has no inherent connection to masculinity or femininity, and as such, it’s unfair to judge a child based on their hairstyle. By allowing your child to express themselves through their hair, you’re helping to erode toxic masculinity and promote individuality.

It’s also important to give your child the freedom to choose their path. While it’s natural to want to guide your child, it’s important to remember that they are their person. By allowing them to make their own choices, you’re helping to foster independence and autonomy. This is what I aim for my boy child. A child who already displays strong attributes of a boy toddler — long hair or not.

In summary: as a parent, it’s important to remember that every child is unique and special in their way. It’s unfair to judge a child based on their hairstyle or any other arbitrary characteristic. By promoting individuality and allowing children to make their own choices, we can help to create a more accepting and inclusive society.

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Comet N.

A girl who writes & addresses toxic hidden agenda in the form of topical issues whilst digesting their relative life lessons. I can't alone— It's a ‘let's all’.