Peace is a state of being that promotes self-preservation. Indeed, peace isn’t a feeling we’ll have all the time most days when we need it. But it’s advisable that in anything we do, peace should always be at the forefront of the results we hope to attain. Otherwise, it’s not worth it.
Chaotic outcomes mar our cognitive abilities and prevent us from being productive. Not being at peace within disrupts our flow.
But the 3 main ways to ensure we maintain that flow state and peace of mind when we gain them are:
By creating boundaries
Forming our boundaries is similar to some of the characteristics we portrayed when we were kids. Whereby we blurt out what we like and don’t like. As adults, it’s more like letting people know assertively where the line is drawn and how they can’t cross it. This method of self-care cannot be overemphasized in its ability to help maintain our peace. Because by creating boundaries, you’re making it clear what your needs are and communicating that there’ll be consequences when they’re breached. So, it instates a sense of peace that you can go ahead and keep being yourself.
Through insurance
Similar to the point above, insuring your emotional, mental and spiritual well-being — which are the core of one’s existence, provides peace. By practicing mindfulness, you are teaching your mind and body how to mark and re-mark those Do’s and Don’ts. By establishing consequences for certain behaviors against you, you’re insuring your peace.
Permission to go mad
This is contradictory to maintaining one’s peace but highly needed at times when someone’s silence or meekness and calm are mistaken for weakness after having their boundaries crossed. Reacting appropriately or getting mad as the case may be, just help to restate their case and hopefully engrave their rights to the violators. Making them more aware of things they like and do not like and thus, preserving their peace of mind in the long run or for the future.
When starting a relationship with anybody; be it a friend, neighbor, maid, housekeeper, colleague, or romantically with a partner, it is only right that you protect certain core areas of yourself that breed peace of mind — whether or not these people intend to harness or give it to you from the jumpstart.
Most ways of ensuring that include slating and reinforcing some clear boundaries so you both know where you stand and where not to trespass, insuring your emotional, mental, and spiritual space by indulging in exercises meant solely for each aspect of living like mindfulness, and lastly by permitting yourself to not only express the disgust but re-mark your words in a pronounced way to their retentive memory — hopefully for life — even if you both don’t stay “friends”.
Thanks for taking the time to read.
