14 Things I Genuinely Want To Like That May Inspire You
There’s a popular comical quote by one of my favorite Nollywood actors. It states thus: “I don’t like what I hate” by Williams Uchemba.
I love this quote because it is what it is. Simple and direct.
But most times, it’s not such an easy feat to evaluate what we like from what we don’t like, likewise the things we hate as well. And as such we tend to act on an intertwined mental state causing us pain in the form of cognitive dissonance.
Because of this, I decided to compile a list of things I like — at the same time wish I genuinely like hoping it’d trigger something in you too.
1.) Honesty
People always think honesty is one thing other people aren’t willing to take. Because of that, they settle for fake inauthentic ways of revealing themselves or how they feel. Which ends up confusing you the receiver and creating more difficulty in comprehending or dealing with the circumstance at hand.
I say: no matter how painful the truth is, I’d always like to hear or know it. I want to know what I’m working with.
2.) Realness
I always appreciate, deeply so, people who are real. If you smoke or drink, then you smoke and drink so what? If you are a nymphomaniac, then that’s what you are so frigging what?
This is similar to the point I mentioned above. To own your truth. Be yourself. Let me know what I’m working with.
3.) Silence
I feel my true nature is to be quiet and keep silent. Often I go contrary to this innate behavior which brings forth lots of headaches as a result.
I also adorn people who can sit quietly with me without feeling awkward or forcing ourselves to engage in draining small talks to fill in the gap.
Again, this is not so easy but I want to genuinely stick to and like what I like about being silent more often.
4.) Peace
Peace is a word most people believe should only be attributed to someone who isn’t confrontational or talks a lot. I’m a confrontational person, not that I like it, but I do it. And paradoxically, I do so to attain peace.
I believe that when we hash out some truths, confront the untrue ones, or other inconsistent behaviors, that’s when we can truly achieve peace.
Realness and silence as aforementioned are in sync with accepting that I like peace because I can admit that I can be confrontational at times to attain it while exercising my quiet nature.
5.) Love
“I love love”. A common mantra people spill that I think I fall into the same category with. Love is beautiful when it’s felt and expressed the “love” way. The issue is, it’s very daunting to admit when you’ve loved, if you are loving, or if the person you’re loving is right.
Matter of fact, love is such an ambiguous word explained and expressed in different ways by different people. But I wish to “love love” genuinely either way.
6.) Lonetime
You want to be my bestie, then understand I must stay away from you from time to time. To re-emerging, to think, to plan, to talk to me, to pray, to manage stuff. To deal.
I like my me-time.
7.) Money
Haha. This was bound to come as part of the list. Money makes things work out. Especially to do with products and services. I love to look good and I love to get things done or pay to get them done. I love to work hard or smart like the millennials would put it, to make ends meet.
I like money, but the need for it sure doesn’t control me. That’s what many people often miss.
8.) Conscientiousness
If you want to win me over, then consider why or what may have led me to behave a certain way that is logical without me explaining a word of it.
Conscientious people are the most amazing set of people you’d ever meet or want to have in your life. They get you. They are considerate. Sometimes they think for you but only because they’re highly empathetic.
Th world needs to be blessed with more conscientious people.
9.) Driving
Ok, this is tricky. Especially because I do have some anxiety driving around in certain conditions like tight spaces, lack of driving regulations, bad roads, lonely roads, and traffic.
All in all, I like driving because it puts me in control. It makes me utilize that power behind the wheels. Which sometimes puts the perspective of driving my life into it.
10.) Exercising
I don’t do this because I should. I genuinely love the feeling that follows after a good workout session. Especially over some favorite aerobics routines.
Working out makes me feel good. And the added advantage is that I get to keep fit and be healthy through it. Win-win.
11.) Talking out
It could be when I’m praying or when I’m revising for an upcoming exam or test. It could even be when I want to make sense out of something, or simply when I’m consoling myself over some pain and hurt. I love talking out loud to better get into the spiritual realm of things required of me to do.
12.) Communicating
Whatever gives me the avenue to relay my thoughts or feelings or inspire people is what I will jump at in a heart bit and that’s mostly for the part where I get to impart my knowledge to people and inspire them. I’m good with that alone also.
13.) Intelligent people
Intelligent people who speak eloquently and know their onions always captivate me – whether as a friend, colleague, or a boss. It stimulates me in a way that makes me want to be close with them, interact always with them, and even emulate them until I’m more like them.
More like I’m sapiosexual.
14.) People who are dissimilar from me
I like people different from me, not incompatible with me.
With that said, it helps to know that some of my friends and loved ones aren’t like me. I’m not fully sure why but I guess it’s to minimize the clashes that might arise as a result of similarities in our personalities and preserve the relationship. Another reason might be to welcome novelty and minimize possible boredom from some of the characteristics I listed earlier.
Therefore inferring they should have variations in their attitude from the list of characteristics as mentioned above.
If you take a closer look at all I’ve mentioned, you’d see more than a glimpse of ways you can improve yourself and self develop. Cultivate one or more of these habits and see how you’d immensely grow inside-out as a person.
Rounding up:
Like Williams Uchemba once said: I don’t Like what I hate.
Knowing what you like is an essential life skill required to develop yourself because you can easily navigate away from things that don’t soothe you or even suit you hence aligning you to things that make you a stronger being, reducing your stress, and also the consequential cognitive dissonance that might follow.
It all begins with self-awareness and the need to improve oneself and develop.
Take the time and be introspective to figure out what you like. And I hope you’re inspired through that means by my list of likes.
